What is success if you don’t have anyone to celebrate it with?
Family and Relationships are the most critical elements to have a balanced life since the primary emotion of Happiness and Joy is fulfilled by simply sharing your success with all those you love. The process has to be reciprocative. To receive Love one must love first unconditionally.
Family (Relationship) - (Representing Element - “Fire”)
There are several books and literature available that can be used to strengthen this area of your life.
Here are some tips,
Before you look into your relationship with other, just spend next ten minutes to summarise your relationship with YOURSELF.
A good Tip by Success Guru Anthony Robbins: “What makes relationship works are the things in common between each other (certainty), but what makes the relationship passionate is the differences (uncertainty).
Find out different ways of giving pleasure to them.
When it comes to the relationship management, listen to your heart and not mind. Whenever you are taking more than 5 seconds to take any relationship related decision, it means you are thinking and using your brain. STOP … what was your first reaction, what came to your mind first? Your first reaction is actually coming from your heart.
A great assessment tool provided by Success Guru Anthony Robbins is, finding whether you meet the Six Basic Human Needs of them?
Certainty - How much certainty you give them?
Uncertainty - How much uncertainty / variety you give them?
Significance - Do you make them feel significant?
Connection / Love - How much do you think, they feel loved?
Growth - How much growth you stimulate in your relationship?
Contribution - How much do you contribute to them that they can appreciate?
A great recommended program is Love & Passion by Anthony Robbins. It is really an eye opener and very practical program.
Today I am going to talk a little more on the Energy / Health / Fitness aspect of the life.
Energy - (Representing Element - “Earth”)
You must be wondering why am I talking about Energy / Health / Fitness first?
Well I personally agree with most of the Success Gurus in this area, for achieving and sustaining success in any Other Area of your life, you must be in a Good Physical Condition, Fit and must have Lots of Energy. If your goal is to make Million(s) of Dollars then one of your goals must be to live at least 80 to 90 if not 100 years in a totally healthy condition to enjoy your success. Isn’t that true?
However it is essential to have Emotional Fitness to have Physical Fitness. What do I mean by that? Well your Physical Fitness is a direct reflection of how you think about yourself, what your thoughts and your emotions are?
Listen to what Dr. Deepak Chopra says about it, “Our body is a Printout of our consistent Thoughts”. He is so right about that, and he further ads to the most important things that we must look at to have a good overall health, and those are to be aware of and control,
How you Behave?
How you Think?
How and What you Eat?
The simple best formula that Dr. Deepak Chopra reveals is that “Keep constantly looking at two signals your body gives you, Signal of Comfort and Signal of Discomfort. Keep amplifying the signal of Comfort and get away from the signal of Discomfort”.
We often neglect the signals coming from our body. It is surely essential to listen to what our body says and just react based on that.
Dr. Deepak Chopra further explains in details about the different body types such as “Vata”, “Pitta” and “Kapha” and how the balance can be created within this body types.
Dr. Deepak Chopra is truly phenomenal in the Health and the Longevity aspects of the life.
Here are some practical tips from the best Guru, My Mentor, Anthony Robbins on the Health and the Fitness.
Go Green. Yes, eat as much green vegetables as possible.
Make 70% of your diet Alkaline.
Limit your intake of Acid forming foods.
Remember Sugar = Acid and Acid = Aging. Hence if you are acidic you are ageing.
Maintain the ideal pH value for your body. Blood has to be slightly alkaline (Ideal pH = 7.36)
There are lots of books and programs available out there in the market. Few of them that I cam across were either more academic or too technical for the non-medical background person like me. I personally liked the programs by Dr. Deepak Chopra and Anthony Robbins. Eye opening for me and gave me lots of hands on tips for bringing a good physical balance in my life.
You must be wondering why am I calling my consolidation of the findings, “The Elements”? Well, let me give you a brief introduction to “The Elements”.
Lot of people have different views on “The Number of Basic Elements”, I am not going into that debate here. For our Balance Life, we target Six Key Areas and each of these Key Area represent One Element. I presumed following Six Elements, Substance (Akasha/K?), Air (Vayu/F?), Fire (Agni/ka/hu?), Water (Jala/sui/sh?i), Earth (Prithvi/chi/t?) and Consciousness(shiki).
And here is how I linked these “Element” to what is called as “Creating the Balance”by most of the Successful People.
Substance = Spiritual. Areas where we talk about Our Values & Commitments. Deciding what we Study & also understanding the Power of Meditation.
Air = Attitude and Emotions. Area of dwelling into our Mental Status. Deciding what we Read, Visualize, Plan, Write, gaining control on our emotions and understanding the value of Synergy.
Fire = Family. This is one of the most important area to address, “Our Relationships”. Providing the Service and being Empathetic.
Water = Wealth. Focusing on your Wealth and Financial Freedom.
Earth = Energy. We sure need Physical Energy and Fitness to enjoy everything in our life. Focus on Exercise, what we eat, The Food and the Nutritions, as well as the Stress Management.
Consciousness = Career. Understanding your True Gift. Doing what we LOVE and Not what we HAVE TO.
I will share more about each in the subsequent Posts. Keep reading.
It’s been long since I had my last Post.
Well I was kind of in the process of studying the success stories. I was reading a lot, listening a lot and researching a lot on several aspects. And in this process I came across with some interesting findings and some wonderful resources. I am consolidating what I could gather together, and I am going to share it all with you.
You know the best part of it, “It is really coming from all those best of the successful people around the world” and here is a good news “You don’t have to reinvent the wheel”.
I will be posting these findings under category, “The Elements” on my website. I am sure you will like it and find it very useful.
To start with, I highly recommend you to view this 22 minutes video by Anthony Robbins at least 4-5 times, I really mean 4-5 times. Every time you view this, it will help you reveal more and more. Tony is awesome, and listen to his message about being “Resources-full” rather than limiting yourself for not having the resources at the same time understand how the different “Needs” drives us.
Pain is a great motivator for change. If we are unable to produce an income, we go into debt just trying to survive. If we get failing grades, we know we need to study. When we suffer embarrassments or humiliation, we need to learn to stand up for ourselves and speak out. To improve ourselves, we need to be highly motivated. This can come in the form of a friend’s rags to riches story, an inspirational movie or self-help books, perhaps on the Law of Attraction or the Science of Getting Rich.
Keeping motivated and positive is crucial. The A to Z tips below will help in actualizing the Law of Attraction.
A - Accomplish what you set out to do. Surround yourself with positive people, places and things. As Robert Kennedy once said, “Some see things as they are and ask why. I dream things that never were and say why not!”
B - Believe you can succeed. Believe this not just in your head but with your whole being.
C - Consider all things from all sides. Motivation doesn’t just happen, we make it happen through determination. Life is better understood when we take even the smallest things into account.
D - Don’t stop trying. Only then do you fail. Thomas Edison said, “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
E - Enjoy what you do. That makes motivation so much easier. Thomas Edison was a very motivated person who said, “I’ve never did a day’s work in my life. It was all fun.”
F - Friends and Family are the foundation of your support. Always remember this.
G - Give all you’ve got and more. Whether it is at home, work or school, when you give more than is asked of you, you feel more motivated to improve yourself.
H - Hope feeds your dreams. Dare to dream and dream of hope. This will be the force that gets you through.
I - Intentionally avoid negative people. There will be people who try to bring you down, even friends. Don’t let them. You may need to sever some ties with some people.
J - Just. Be just yourself and be just to yourself and others. If you try to please everyone else, you end up not pleasing anyone, especially not yourself.
K - Keep putting one foot in front of the other. If you keep trying no matter what, you haven’t failed. A motivated person will keep moving forward no matter what life dishes out. The result is an improved self.
L - Love yourself first. Before you can love others, you must love yourself.
M - Make it happen. Putting your dreams to work is motivation.
N - Never compromise the game. It should always be fair.
O - Open you mind as well as your eyes. Always be open to new ways of seeing things. You never know but that you could find the best way to reach your goals this way.
P - Practice what you preach. If you do what you say and say what you do, you keep motivated and honest. It also makes sure you correct your mistakes rather than ignore them.
Q - Quitters are never really in the game and winners are in all the way. Which are you? Quitter or winner? The choice is yours.
R - Ready, set, go! Get motivated, move forward and don’t stop. Others will be less likely to get in your way when they see your determination.
S - Stop putting things off to the last minute. This results in hurried carelessness. If Noah had waited until the first drop of rain fell to start building the Ark, it would have been a leaky tub.
T - Take responsibility for yourself. Self-improvement comes from self-discipline and self-control. Self-motivation goes hand-in-hand with these.
U - Understand the thoughts and feelings of others. Communication is key to the Science of Getting Rich and communication is more than jus talking. You must listen at least as much as you talk.
V - Visualize your dreams and aspirations. If you can see it, you can achieve it. That will provide motivation to see it through.
W - Want your dreams to be reality. This is the crux of motivation. Believing in your dreams will make you want to improve yourself to make them real.
X - ‘Xtra’ motivation. Motivate yourself to have the extras you need - extra time for yourself, your family and friends, to give and get extra help at work, etc.
Y - You are yourself. You are unique in every way. No one else is like you. That uniqueness gives you value in your life, so make the most of it.
Z - Zap the negatives in your life and zero in on the positives. Dare to dream and go after them.
Do you have a great plan or idea in mind that you would just love to try out? A lot of people have such plans and ideas. What inspirations do you have to turn these plans and ideas into reality? What motivates your creativity? Give this serious thought.
Setting goals helps you to get more done in less time. Even personal goals such as getting all the yard work done before the weekend so you can go camping. Keeping a positive attitude and outlook while doing everything helps to make necessary chores go more smoothly and be more enjoyable. This is a path to true happiness.
To accomplish what you never thought you could takes positive thinking in a big way. This is the kind of thinking that helped get America on the road to the prosperity that, as a whole, we enjoy today. More such thinking will increase that prosperity to greater levels.
Even while relaxing in your comfortable recliner, you can be coming up with creative ideas, including how to best apply the Law of Attraction in your life. Don’t just sit in idle thought, be thinking actively. Below are some tips that could help with applying that plus the Science of Getting Rich.
DAY 1 - Take action with passion. Don’t just talk about it - do it. Those who take action are the ones who accomplish to most. And taking passionate action does even more. This exemplifies how dreams become reality. They begin in your mind and, through action, flow out through your hands. Once you begin to take action, the dream gains strength. DAY 2 - Make a commitment to yourself as well as your loved ones to build the life you have always dreamed of. Commit yourself to taking action from deep within instead of just reacting to events as they happen. A dream is just that - a dream - if it is not followed by action. You will be astounded when it takes shape before your eyes. DAY 3 - Recognize that each moment is precious and embrace it. Its outcome matters less than the fact that it a moment that will pass never to return. If you have an idea that you think might be too far fetched, try it anyway, it just might work. You’d be amazed at how often things we think can’t be done, can be done and more quickly than we thought possible. Even if something doesn’t work, leanr from it and it isn’t a wasted effort. DAY 4 - Be thankful for what you have. Make constructive use of what is at hand. Accept help when needed and be grateful it is there. Poverty exists when gratitude is absent and that draws negative values. Gratitude is a primary virtue. Work to attain it. DAY 5 - Instead of flooding your mind with ‘what if’ and ‘if only’ scenarios, replace it with recognition, re-evaluation and restoration. This shift will result in abundant knowledge instead of increased procrastination and timidity of action. Procrastination kills creative expression. DAY 6 - Laugh at every opportunity. Whether it is at yourself or with others. Humor entertains and lifts the spirit. Even old jokes and riddles will have a good effect. Don’t allow yourself time to wallow in self-pity. Use life giving humor to light your way. Laughter cures more ills than drugs and prevents more disease than any apple. DAY 7 - Believe in yourself and your abilities. Only you can take what is innately yours away from you. Create a life of real abundance for yourself. You can do so much more than you ever thought you could. Think about enjoying your work in a big way. With every action, celebrate the work of your hands and all will be a perfect picture of the Law of Attraction.
Don’t get caught up in meaningless trivia. Don’t think you can’t learn. You learned to use a computer, you can learn so much more. Think positively and your life will be enriched. That is the Science of Getting Rich in a nutshell. Light a candle to shed light in the dark reaches of your mind. Elevate your attitude to a positive level in all things. This will put you where you want and should be.
"Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil." -- James Allen
