What is success if you don’t have anyone to celebrate it with?
Family and Relationships are the most critical elements to have a balanced life since the primary emotion of Happiness and Joy is fulfilled by simply sharing your success with all those you love. The process has to be reciprocative. To receive Love one must love first unconditionally.
Family (Relationship) - (Representing Element - “Fire”)
There are several books and literature available that can be used to strengthen this area of your life.
Here are some tips,
Before you look into your relationship with other, just spend next ten minutes to summarise your relationship with YOURSELF.
A good Tip by Success Guru Anthony Robbins: “What makes relationship works are the things in common between each other (certainty), but what makes the relationship passionate is the differences (uncertainty).
Find out different ways of giving pleasure to them.
When it comes to the relationship management, listen to your heart and not mind. Whenever you are taking more than 5 seconds to take any relationship related decision, it means you are thinking and using your brain. STOP … what was your first reaction, what came to your mind first? Your first reaction is actually coming from your heart.
A great assessment tool provided by Success Guru Anthony Robbins is, finding whether you meet the Six Basic Human Needs of them?
Certainty - How much certainty you give them?
Uncertainty - How much uncertainty / variety you give them?
Significance - Do you make them feel significant?
Connection / Love - How much do you think, they feel loved?
Growth - How much growth you stimulate in your relationship?
Contribution - How much do you contribute to them that they can appreciate?
A great recommended program is Love & Passion by Anthony Robbins. It is really an eye opener and very practical program.
You must be wondering why am I calling my consolidation of the findings, “The Elements”? Well, let me give you a brief introduction to “The Elements”.
Lot of people have different views on “The Number of Basic Elements”, I am not going into that debate here. For our Balance Life, we target Six Key Areas and each of these Key Area represent One Element. I presumed following Six Elements, Substance (Akasha/K?), Air (Vayu/F?), Fire (Agni/ka/hu?), Water (Jala/sui/sh?i), Earth (Prithvi/chi/t?) and Consciousness(shiki).
And here is how I linked these “Element” to what is called as “Creating the Balance”by most of the Successful People.
Substance = Spiritual. Areas where we talk about Our Values & Commitments. Deciding what we Study & also understanding the Power of Meditation.
Air = Attitude and Emotions. Area of dwelling into our Mental Status. Deciding what we Read, Visualize, Plan, Write, gaining control on our emotions and understanding the value of Synergy.
Fire = Family. This is one of the most important area to address, “Our Relationships”. Providing the Service and being Empathetic.
Water = Wealth. Focusing on your Wealth and Financial Freedom.
Earth = Energy. We sure need Physical Energy and Fitness to enjoy everything in our life. Focus on Exercise, what we eat, The Food and the Nutritions, as well as the Stress Management.
Consciousness = Career. Understanding your True Gift. Doing what we LOVE and Not what we HAVE TO.
I will share more about each in the subsequent Posts. Keep reading.
It’s been long since I had my last Post.
Well I was kind of in the process of studying the success stories. I was reading a lot, listening a lot and researching a lot on several aspects. And in this process I came across with some interesting findings and some wonderful resources. I am consolidating what I could gather together, and I am going to share it all with you.
You know the best part of it, “It is really coming from all those best of the successful people around the world” and here is a good news “You don’t have to reinvent the wheel”.
I will be posting these findings under category, “The Elements” on my website. I am sure you will like it and find it very useful.
To start with, I highly recommend you to view this 22 minutes video by Anthony Robbins at least 4-5 times, I really mean 4-5 times. Every time you view this, it will help you reveal more and more. Tony is awesome, and listen to his message about being “Resources-full” rather than limiting yourself for not having the resources at the same time understand how the different “Needs” drives us.
Attraction Acceleration Report is a special Interview with Bob Proctor on the revolutionary program Science of Getting Rich. Bob Proctor as we all know, is in the Personal development industry since lates 60’s.
The program Science of Getting Rich is designed to have similar impact that these books had on the people. Bob goes ahead and talks about the fundamental of getting rich, “You don’t get rich by doing certain things. You get rich by doing things in a certain way.†and the objective of the program Science of Getting Rich is to figure out how to win doing the things in a certain way and not just doing the thing without producing any result.
The program Science of Getting Rich goes deep into Different Laws and Intellectual Factors. Bob explains in details how Science of Getting Rich helps people underatand the Law of Attraction and makes earning money the simplest thing in the world once you learn how to do it.
Today I am going to talk a little bit about the Creating Effective Relationship.
Relationships of all kinds are often perceived as very delicate things, that require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security and can also be long lasting despite many trials.
Building an effective and lasting relationships is a necessity for several reasons. For example in a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient and effective that group or organization works.
The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with the management.
An ineffective group or organization can really be very frustrating. An effective group or organization can also ask so much on their members, that sometimes the members would be having no life outside the walls of the area where they work or sacrifice the other aspects of their life just to meet deadlines. For an organization or group with this kind of scenario, relationships can be stressed or suffer from breakdown.
People or other entities who depend on these groups or organization also suffer.
Society is defined as a web of relationships, which requires all parties to work and contribute their share in order to achieve a common goal. Having a relationship that is good, where cooperation and respect are manifested, can make society work better. In this way each member works for the good of the whole and towards achieving a common goal. This can only be attained with effective and efficient relationships.
Understanding the other parties’ feeling and position creates an effective and efficient relationship. The easiest method to understand what is important to another party is to ask them what they want and listen to what they have to say. When the other party realizes this, they would feel the importance given to them
Effective and efficient relationships require parties to openly express their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. Assuming that the other party understands our needs and give us when we need it without asking for it is not a good practice.
Respect is the key to relationship. In order to create a more effective relationship, parties should treat each other with respect. We can show respect just by listening to the other party and by trying sincerely to understand how they function. You can also show respect to other parties by confirming that they are doing everything they can.
The opposite of respect is quick forming of judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice.
Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting yourself and respecting others.
Another key area in forming an effective relationship is to tackle differences of the other party directly. Differences between parties or people are quite interesting. For example in a conversation where each party listens to the other party, you may observe that each is having two different perspectives.
Work towards a win-win solution for both parties.
This can be done when at least one party acknowledges that the relationship is important. That party would then exert more time, effort and energy to understand the other party’s needs and deal with it to get it out of the way. Should they fail, it is comforting for that party to know that they tried.
Effectively listening and no pre-judging. This is important if parties are to understand each other.
Informal discussions are conducive for parties. They bring out issues and concerns comfortably. They also feel more relaxed making them think more clearly.
Developing an atmosphere where the other party can express their feelings when they need to.
When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind or their feelings, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.
Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally but should be controlled in any dealings in any relationship. Human nature is one. Some of these things found in a relationship also include a history of stereotyping or mistrust, blaming the other person or party for a strained relationship, excluding the other party’s feelings when focusing on a task, no clear and defined objectives, roles and expectations of each party in a relationship is also unclear.
Relationships are important to anyone, addressing issues and problems right away is a must to further improve the relationship. As they say ‘No man is an Island’.
"Dream lofty dreams, and as you dream, so shall you become. Your vision is the promise of what you shall one day be; your ideal is the prophecy of what you shall at last unveil." -- James Allen
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